Like anyone with a quarter of a brain, for a number of years I’ve been loathing the social agenda of the total annihilation of the institution of marriage. This agenda (it seems to me) has quite logically been pressed by the homosexuals and other sexual perverts. The funny (read: exceedingly sad) thing is that a very small percentage of sexual deviants has influenced (read: duped) so many in our culture. It’s the ol’ I’m-not-gay-or-anything-but-I-think-that-people-should-be-able-to-marry-whomever-they-want routine. It’s a lame routine. It would be really easy for us to point our fingers at these folks who support “gay marriage” and say that they are responsible for the destruction of marriage in our time. That accusation and the associated finger-pointing, however, would be misguided.
Who is responsible for the destruction of marriage? At whom should we point our fingers and toward whom should be unleash might imprecations? Quite simply, at ourselves. Christians are to blame. One of the primary columns on which our culture rests is all but destroyed because (generally speaking) Christians SUCK BIG TIME at marriage. I don’t want to spend time now going into the particulars. Suffice it to say that Christian men need to focus on loving their wives as Christ loved his church and (for starters) leave off secret sexual sins (pornography, masturbation, etc) selfishness (obsession with TV, sports, Facebook, and other distractions). When Christian men repent of being bad husbands, we will see the church of Jesus Christ leading (by example) our culture back toward a healthy, culture-building practice of marriage and family. Brothers, let us repent of our sins, press hard into Christ, and seek his grace to serve him faithfully as men, husbands, fathers, workers and worshipers. May God grant this to his church in our day.
Okay, back to the homos: I was listening to the Michael Medved Show a few years ago. He had a homo on his show who was defending “gay marriage.” One of his defensive tactics was to pretend that the opening up of marriage to homosexuals was isolated, that is, that it was not part of a slippery slope. Any connection that callers would make between homos getting “married” and what would most certainly follow from that was derisively dismissed with the mere wave of his limp wrist. Well, I ran across a few stories yesterday that show what a ZOO has ensued in the following years. I am sure that hundreds of similar stories could be marshaled (please link to them in the comments).
In case you were so childish to think that ideas are not connected, get a gander at this story about a woman who “married” herself in Taiwan as a protest. (There is a video at this link that I’ve not watched; I just read the little article.) Here’s another about a silly woman who “married” herself to express publicly that she loves and accepts herself! Those, however, are mere elementary tomfoolery compared to the third one.
The third one – the BIG MAMA – is about a woman (a church organist!) who, in sheer insanity and sexual perversion, is planning on “marrying” a fairground ride. Yup. You read that correctly. Seriously, read the story. The Onion couldn’t have made it up (or written it) any better. This story (if it’s not fake) is truly amazing.
I’d say the concept and practice of marriage is still quite strong, wouldn’t you?
I think you are right, insofar as the blame rests upon us as Christians. We are to blame for not setting the example. There is, however, also another aspect which needs to be addressed. We did not make use of the means given to us to publicly promote and defend that Christian concept of marriage. So, if all we do is live our marriage as we should, it is not enough. Christianity is not spread just by people observing our behavior but also by our being ready to give an answer, a reason for the hope that is within us. We are called to do both.
Hi, Tim. I am one of those many Christians who needed help but didn’t get it in time to save my marriage to another Christian woman whom really loves the Lord; but praise God, I am doing something about it now and our God of second and third chances is blessing me as one of His many “new creatures in Christ” and I may even get back together again with my ex-wife sometime in the future. But I have found lately that one of the answers to the problems that lead to breakdowns of even Christian marriages is that especially the husbands of the family need to be accountable to other men in the churches but very few churches practice this accountability of the husbands to other men in the church so many men in today’s church are going to fail in their attempts to keep their marriage together and based on the Lord Jesus Christ and His Word to us. I attended one church in which the pastors and elders mentioned that they meet with the married men in their congregation every week so they are accountable to each other, and in the meetings, they ask very pointed questions of the men of whom they are being accountable to them such as “How did you treat your wife this week, as described in Ephesians 5 (“husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved His church” etc.) or as the world would do so?” and “On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest mark), how would your wife rate you on your being a Christian husband this past week?” etc. I was really happy that this church was doing this accountability thing each and every week and they were definitely in this work to help save their marriages for God’s glory. I now believe that this is one of several answers to the shame of Christians divorcing other Christians from their marriages (another answer would be more direct teaching about Christian marriages in the Bible but many churches don’t do much if any teaching on this most-important subject in which there are so many failures in their numbers, but that’s another subject) but we need all of the Christians within these churches to be accountable not only to the Lord for their actions, but also, to be accountable to other Christians, and especially the men in the local church. This accountability is real and is working in my life and I know it will work in many of the couples in the church if they put it to work–all for God’s honor and glory.